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If You...Then You...

Throughout my life I've heard that if I were smaller or taller or if my hair was longer, then I'd be pretty. Only then, huh? Similar phrases in regards to less shallow characteristics have also been spoken. We often hear about how if we correct this flaw others perceive, then we'd be something, but even in progress you are enough.

Let's unpack this. As I unzip this suitcase, I wonder: is the perceived flaw even a flaw or is it just a part of you that makes you -well you? These folks who pick at you to try to make their own perfect version of you share the opposite of meaningful musings but instead droll on with nothings and sometimes even projections if their own shortcomings. Maybe they do see a flaw, but then there's a question of intentions, so we can't dare focus on them because that's a never ending rabbit hole that even Alice wouldn't dive into, okay!

What I want to focus on is seemingly harder but within your control. Are you enough for you? Do you like yourself? Truly like who you are as a person? Those are the hard questions. Sometimes we have to look in the mirror and see who we are not in relation to others including those we love. Do you really believe if you can change that one tiny thing some weirdo told you to you'll be satisfied? Are you comfortable in your skin? I don't mean comfortable in the negative connotation, but can you live with yourself? Are you positive about your body and intentional about loving the body God gave you? Or do you only like what your partner compliments or what gets you attention? Do you use what you have in only the best of ways? Are you working on you to be who God created you to be?

If you don't like the answers to those questions, then you've a little extra work to do but it's not hopeless. There will always be a flaw whether made up or real as day. There will always be self-work to do. It's called evolving, but are you loving you where you are right now?

Learn to love not just the process, the progress, who you will be, who you want to be, but you in every stage.

God loves you so much. He made you on purpose and gave you purpose. We've all made mistakes. That's not to make light of them but to acknowledge we can't change the past. We can walk in the now and try to be better for if we wake up tomorrow. We all have quirks. Many of them drive us. We all have different body types. Our differences have molded the world. We won't be "it" to everybody, and that's okay. Be grateful for you are "it" to and vice versa. If you are reading this, then you should I know you. That's it. Not if you change something about yourself. I don't care what you look like. I don't care your tax bracket. I just love you. And that's on that.

If no one has shown you, I love you but God loves you better.

Be blessed.

-K.T. Braxton

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