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Ask Kenny Dec.2016

Heeeeyyyy y'all. As promised here is the last "Ask Kenny" of the year. I am outside of my normal time zone, so where I am I have a bit of time left in 2016. Tonight we will answer a question posed by a wonderful friend of mine and also have year end reflections. So let's go! 

Q: "Why are some men intimidated by successful women?"

     As I rubbed my head in exasperation trying to muster up words to sufficiently answer this question, the obvious jumped out at me as if it wasn't already in my reach. As I have stated many times before, the difference between man and woman go beyond physicality. With that being said, some men who are intimidated by strong women because they have not met strength. They do not greet one another by first name. 

    Why should a woman have to be weak for a man to feel strong? For years and years, women have been deprived of opportunity and education yet barriers have been shattered like the glass ceilings meant to be destroyed. With many men being absent from the home -as a result of systematic oppression and destruction of the black family, generational curses, personal choice, and all other befitting reasons- the women have not only been mothers but have been forced to substitute in paternal roles. Instead of there being a team, there have been one-woman shows. Of course with all the extra weight on their shoulders they became stronger, therefore, they posed a threat to men lacking courage and substance. 

   Now, I am surely not so rigid that I assume that is the only reason why some men (notice I did not generalize the whole male species) are intimidated by strong women which leads me here to this next point. Traditionalists still exist, however, some have a slanted view. I personally am the product of a traditional manly man and a strong woman, but I digress. Some just want control. They thrive on said control. In years past, many of the women depended on men for income, freedom, approval, and many other elements of their life. Men of today's era growing up with this mindset, assume that women of today's era are to depend completely on them, and this is by no means degrading women of years past because they raised generations; those women were the backbone; they were taken through many trials, some of which caused by the men they called husbands because of the unspoken fight for control. Some of these new age traditionalists do not necessarily have a mindset of leading but of control. When they see independent, strong-willed women, I imagine them scratching their heads, and I say this as unbiased as possible, because they wonder what use can they have. When you don't